Hear What People Are Really Saying

Listening is one of the most important skills you can have.

How well you listen has a major impact on your job effectiveness, and on the quality of your relationships with others.

We listen to obtain information.
We listen to understand.
We listen for enjoyment.
We listen to learn.

Given all this listening we do, you would think we’d be good at it! In fact we’re not. Depending on the study being quoted, we remember a dismal 25-50% of what we hear.

That means that when you talk to your boss, colleagues, customers or partners for 10 minutes, they only really hear 2½-5 minutes of the conversation.

Turn it around and it reveals that when you are receiving directions or being presented with information, you aren’t hearing the whole message either. You hope the important parts are captured in your 25- 50%, but what if they’re not?

Clearly, listening is a skill that we can all benefit from improving. By becoming a better listener, you will improve your productivity, as well as your ability to influence, persuade negotiate. What’s more, you’ll avoid conflict and misunderstandings – all necessary for workplace success. )

The way to become a better listener is to practice “active listening”. This is where you make a conscious effort to hear not only the words that another person is saying but, more importantly, to try and understand the total message being sent.

In order to do this you must pay attention to the other person very carefully.

You cannot allow yourself to become distracted by what else may be going on around you, or by forming counter arguments that you’ll make when the other person stops speaking. Nor can you allow yourself to lose focus on what the other person is saying. All of these barriers contribute to a lack of listening and understanding.

To enhance your listening skills, you need to let the other person know that you are listening to what he or she is saying. To understand the importance of this, ask yourself if you’ve ever been engaged in a conversation when you wondered if the other person was listening to what you were saying. You wonder if your message is getting across, or if it’s even worthwhile to continue speaking. It feels like talking to a brick wall and it’s something you want to avoid.

Acknowledgement can be something as simple as a nod of the head or a simple “uh huh.” You aren’t necessarily agreeing with the person, you are simply indicating that you are listening. Using body language and other signs to acknowledge you are listening also reminds you to pay attention and not let your mind wander.

You should also try to respond to the speaker in a way that will both encourage him or her to continue speaking, so that you can get the information if you need. While nodding and “uh huhing” says you’re interested, an occasional question or comment to recap what has been said communicates that you understand the message as well.

Becoming an Active Listener

There are five key elements of active listening. They all help you ensure that you hear the other person, and that the other person knows you are hearing what they are saying.

1. Pay attention.
   Give the speaker your undivided attention and acknowledge the message. Recognize that what is not said also speaks loudly.
   • Look at the speaker directly.
   • Put aside distracting thoughts. Don’t mentally prepare a rebuttal!
   • Avoid being distracted by environmental factors.
   • “Listen” to the speaker’s body language.
   • Refrain from side conversations when listening in a group setting.
2. Show that you are listening.
   Use your own body language and gestures to convey your attention.
   • Nod occasionally.
   • Smile and use other facial expressions.
   • Note your posture and make sure it is open and inviting.
   • Encourage the speaker to continue with small verbal comments like yes, and uh huh.
3. Provide feedback.
   Our personal filters, assumptions, judgments, and beliefs can distort what we hear. As a listener, your role is to understand what is being said. This may require you to reflect what is being said and ask questions.
   • Reflect what has been said by paraphrasing. “What I’m hearing is…” and “Sounds like you are saying…” are great ways to reflect back.
   • Ask questions to clarify certain points. “What do you mean when you say…” “Is this what you mean?”
   • Summarize the speaker’s comments periodically.

4. Defer judgment.
   Interrupting is a waste of time. It frustrates the speaker and limits full understanding of the message.
   • Allow the speaker to finish.
   • Don’t interrupt with counterarguments.
5. Respond Appropriately.
   Active listening is a model for respect and understanding. You are gaining information and perspective. You add nothing by attacking the speaker or otherwise putting him or her down.
   • Be candid, open, and honest in your response.
   • Assert your opinions respectfully.
   • Treat the other person as he or she would want to be treated.

Key Points:

It takes a lot of concentration and determination to be an active listener. Old habits are hard to break, and if your listening habits are as bad as many people’s are, then there’s a lot of habit-breaking to do!

Be deliberate with your listening and remind yourself constantly that your goal is to truly hear what the other person is saying. Set aside all other thoughts and behaviors and concentrate on the message. Ask question, reflect, and paraphrase to ensure you understand the message. If you don’t, then you’ll find that what someone says to you and what you hear can be amazingly different!

Start using active listening today to become a better communicator and improve your workplace productivity and relationships.

Ivana Agapiou Career Advisor  and outplacement Consultant

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Seeking a highly professional Store Manager for an expanding business – 3 days per week.

Our client seeks a persuasive communicator with a positive can-do attitude.

The role 

• Front of house sales as well as accepting and preparing orders
• stock control, data entry, pricing
• merchandising and sales promotions
• contribute to marketing strategy
• Three days per week  – 9 – 5 pm

The company

Progressive small business that is  expanding and in a major growth phase, you will have an integral role in this phase.  Our client is a leader in the supply of corporate uniforms and accessories. They take enormous  pride in their service levels and are keen to have a new team member who shares their enthusiasm and ethos.

The skills and experience

• Proven track record of great customer service and sales within a clothing environment
• Excellent communication skills (verbal and written)
• advanced interpersonal skills with a great attitude
• strong software knowledge including MYOB;  MS office Suite;  and as well knowledge of POS software.
• high personal presentation and professionalism
• initiative and basic knowledge of marketing techniques
• team work and a great team member to have on board
• ideally, your computer literacy is above average

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